So weeks 14 and 15 have passed so quickly and a lot quicker than I thought!) and they are right what they say about time being a healer! For those of you that follow YP's Diary you'll get where I'm coming from. At first I cried then I got confused then cried and I got angry and then negative and the only way from that is to look at everything positively although I am still slightly confused but don't think that will go away just yet but definitely working on it as there is no point dwelling.
I love being positive in fact I'd say I've lost so much of my sparkle and outlook over this last year that I found it hard at first to feel any kind of positive at all and then being diagnosed with Prenatal Depression on top didn't help but it's all ok and I'm getting stronger. We all generally want to be happy....What's wrong with that? And maybe sometimes you have to go through sad and bad times to find you're true happiness and to be fair I'm sick of writing how sad and poorly we all are rather than the fun stuff! Life is way too short to be unhappy for long.
So where are we with positive notes this past 2 weeks....
* Top of the list - My beautiful little boy George who has Rubenstien Taybi Syndrome managed to climb a full set of stairs aged 2 years 5 months and this is a massive accomplishment for us and a very positive one at that...Well done baby boy check it out on my Youtube.
* Mama YP, George and Arthur the bump are at Mum and Step Dad's house in a cosy room it's ok but really need to get on with finding our own pad (Watch this space got a few irons in the fire)
* I only have 2 weeks of work left before my maternity starts!! Got to get some buns for the last day (Or shall I make some? haha)
* 6 weeks to go before the arrival of Arthur and baby bag is packed and ready to rock and roll just need to do mine.....comfy pants and bras etc.....
* I'm eating again!.....By that I mean eating more after every break up your eating can change and luckily I'm back on the grub already! One because it's not just about me and 2 I'm generally hungry.
* I have managed to get more steps in daily which has made me shattered but I feel loads better for it.
Yorkshire Pud xx
34 Weeks Pregnant
I found these amazing 5 steps to happiness here on the tinterweb and I think it's a great way to look at stuff (Follow the link for more info) And I definitely will be from now on.
I can choose to be happy?
Sure, this isn’t always easy, but it is always, always an option. Teaching myself to see that happiness is a choice has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself.
Now when I find myself in a bad situation, I know that it’s up to me to find the good, to be happy regardless of what’s happening around me. I am no longer pointing fingers, placing blame. I realise that everything happens how it happens and it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it. I am in control of my happiness level and no one can take that away from me.
If you want to live a positive, joyful and happy life, you cannot –- absolutely CANNOT -– be surrounded by negative people who are not encouraging your happiness. When I was a pretty negative person, I tended to attract other negative people.
When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of all of the negative people in it. This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. Getting rid of people hurts -– even when you know they aren’t good for you or your current lifestyle.
Not only did I have to get rid of the negative people, but I also had to get rid of the negative things too. I had to stop doing certain things that were causing negativity in my life. I had to take a step back and examine which behaviours were good for me and which were not.
I learnt to focus on the positive things I was doing and let go of the negative ones. This process was not easy and to be honest, is still ongoing, but I know this: having negativity in your life prevents you from living a truly positive existence.
There is the positive aspect in everything. In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not all that obvious. We have to look. And sometimes we have to look hard.
The old me just sat back and allowed things to happen by default. If I saw negative, I went with that feeling. I didn’t want to look harder or think too much about the good. I found it much, much easier to sit back and just accept what I saw (which was usually the bad).
Now, when I’m faced with a difficult or challenging situation, I think to myself, “” No matter how terrible the situation might seem, I always can find something good if I take the time to think about it.
Everything –- good and bad -– is a learning experience. So, at the very least, you can learn from bad experiences. However, there’s usually even more to it than that. If you really take the time to look, you will usually find something good, something really positive, about every person or situation.
Once I started thinking more positively and adapted to a more positive attitude, I realised I had to reinforce these thoughts and behaviours in myself so they would stick. As with any sort of training, practice makes perfect, and, yes, you can practice being positive.
The best and easiest way to do this is to be positive when it comes to who you are. Tell yourself you’re awesome. Tell yourself you look good. Tell yourself that you love and accept yourself completely. Tell yourself you did an awesome job at work or raising your kids or whatever it is you do.
Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. And, whatever you do, focus on the negative. Nothing good can come of telling yourself that your butt’s too big or your latest career goal wasn’t met.
It’s okay to not like everything about yourself (yet), but don’t spend energy dwelling on the negative. Remind yourself of the good in you. We all have positive attributes and it’s up to you to remind yourself of them every day.
Not only do you need to be positive with yourself for this new to really take effect, you also need to be positive with others. You have to share your wealth of positivity with the world.
The best way I’ve found to do this is quite simple and basic: . Be nice to other people, no matter what. Tell someone he or she looks nice today. Tell someone they did a great job on that presentation. Tell your parents or children (or both!) how much you love them and how great they are.
When someone is feeling down, do what you can to cheer him or her up. Send flowers. Write notes. Don’t gossip. Be kind to all living things. All of these things sound basic enough, but, for someone like me, they didn’t used to come easily.
In the past, I didn’t wanted to see the good in myself and, therefore, didn’t want to see it in others either. I used to be critical and condescending. Now I strive to be encouraging and supportive. I try not only to treat others, as I would like to be treated, but also to consider how would like to be treated.
People appreciate positivity and the more you are sharing it with others, the more you are practicing it and reinforcing it in your own life.
When you start feeling like the idea of being a positive person is daunting, tell yourself this: “If someone who really used to struggle with a negative attitude, turned her life around with these five steps, then I can too!”
If anyone had told me a few years ago that I would be writing an article about developing a positive attitude and living a happy life, I would have laughed right in their face. I would have said, “Why in the world would someone want me to write about positivity?”
But here I am, writing this post, believing in these words, and knowing that every single day I am getting closer and closer to living the happy life I’ve secretly dreamt of living. If I can do it, you can do it. Believe in yourself and remember the most important lesson of all… a positive outlook is a choice. Choose to be positive. Choose to be happy. Life is short.